Counseling before marriage is becoming popular among those anxious about making a solid lifelong union. But not all couples believe it works for the better. There are more options to consider before we say “I do”. Living in for a while, sharing a household, traveling with each other or working together we can discover enough about our future spouses and their habits.
Falling in love with a person does not take a lot of time. Though it is not always easy to define whether the current partner is a perfect one for us. Sometimes a partner resembles a pair of new shoes. At first, we consider them absolutely perfect but over the time they either press too much or become loose. A perfect pair though matches all our individual specifics and feels comfortable at all times.
A successful marriage is not about finding a perfect partner but also about retaining them. Living together for a while, young people can see how they come through different situations as a couple and manage conflicts. It seems that frequent conflicts can ruin every marriage, but avoiding collisions is not as important as being able to solve them. Hardship may come in the very unexpected moment, but some couples can tolerate each other at such times while the others cannot. Again, conflict and stress management in a couple can be easily practiced before the marriage.
Living in or a while, partners shall pay attention to annoying things in each other. Are the two people capable of voicing their fears and giving unpleasant comments? Are they able to listen and improve for each other? These are the basic questions to answer before the marriage.